Whoever comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and even life itself, cannot be my disciple.

"You cannot serve God and mammon." (Luke 16.13)  Not as in, "you ought not" but rather "you can not," as an impossibility.  Even so, we cannot receive the divine life Christ wishes to bestow on us if we cling to our life in this world.  Our attitude must be that of pilgrims passing through a strange land.  "Conduct yourselves reverently while in a strange land."  There is no question that our hearts want to put down roots into this life but those roots must be pulled up if we are to attach ourselves to Christ "whose spirit blows where it will."  If we are to rise up and enter the wedding feast when the bridegroom comes, those roots have to be pulled up - the sooner the better.  And the deeper they go the more painful it becomes.